Tag Archive for 'Pregnancy'

Rollin’ Out Wit Style!

Tricked Out Baby Buggy
Quite possibly my two favorite gifts (think adult Capsela, “Snap! Pop! Functional!”): detachable infant car seat that snaps into the body of the stroller. Everything can be operated with one hand including popping out the car seat and collapsing the stroller. My inner and outer geeks are overjoyed at the engineering! Many thanks to Uncle Ken and Aunt Mary Ellen for the car seat and the Starrs for the stroller!

Blue Tape Can Make Your Work More Professional!

Yesterday I spent the day staying dry by prepping and painting the baby’s room all the while enjoying one of my Cheap Ass Home Stereo Solutions®.

Finished Taping
Finished taping while enjoying some Last.fm streams.
Finished Painting
Finished Painting and now admiring how the blue tape will hide my sloppy roller work. If only I could apply blue tape to other areas in my life.
Damn Marks!
Seven coats later and I still cannot cover those damn marks from where the bookcase collapsed a little after we moved in. I curse you wall marks!

84 Days of Procrastination Left!

Finding tasks other than the ones that need to be done is a skill I have mastered. With the days remaining until the arrival of Gabriella settling into the double-digits I have stepped up my efforts to do everything but what needs to get done. Painting the room becomes reading a book, finishing the dresser becomes fiddling with the server, and steam cleaning the carpets becomes chopping wood. Hell, I have even begun throwing myself into the daily chores like washing the dishes and vacuuming as a means to avoid those Operation Baby Prep® tasks, something that is very contrarian. something tells me that if I stay the course I’ll be coaching Management through her labor with a paint roller in one hand and a steam cleaner in the other.

Flayed Alive With Feathers

Anxiety is a strange beast. There are times when it gnaws on your bones, cracking them to suck the marrow out. Times when it perches on your shoulder, breath hot and moist on your ear, nattering quietly. Today, however, is that time when it has you boxed in, turning you about with quick prods that sets your skin tingling.

Last night, I lay awake running through the classic triptych of worry: time, money, family. Will I have enough time? What if I don’t have enough money? How will my family provide for itself. Uncertainty mixed with anticipation makes for a potent cocktail, one whose effects are slow building but are amplified by my own feedback loops. The back of my eyes ache from this miasma I am creating.

I suspect that when I first hold my daughter it will be as if I rushed headlong into a brick wall attempting to vault it only to find myself sitting hard upon the ground, lights blinking and swimming before my eyes. Humbled, as I realize a greater gravity that binds me to this earth.

Like a vise squeezing down on me…

Tuesday night was long, longer than any other I can remember in recent memory. Management had been complaining of lower back pain for several days but as that day crawled into evening the pain was more localized, intense at the base of her spine and radiating waves of pressure out her abdomen, down her hips, and into her thighs. Her breath shortened, eyes tightened, and her face became increasingly drawn. At twenty-six weeks this shouldn’t be happening. She should be asking for a bowl of ice cream or if the dog and I want to go for a short walk around the neighborhood. She shouldn’t be laying in bed unable to speak above a whisper, barely able to swallow through the waves of pain.

We called the doctor at eight, in a hospital room by nine, propped up on pillows with monitors strapped to her expansive blossom of a belly, she held my hand while I sat in a chair pulled in as close to the bed as it could get. Two weeks prior we had gone through this with doctors cautioning that she take it easy, rest more and pass on even the most mundane of tasks like washing dishes or running the vacuum over our meager carpet. Certainly, we agreed, and for the following days made sure that the only things Management had to do was care for herself but that I’d help wherever necessary, even tying her shoes.

However, there we sat until the early hours of Wednesday at least making our way back home before the hills began to redden with morning light. With two visits to the hospital in under a month the advice now included no travel beyond visiting friends and family locally as well as making the scant seven mile commute to work. This newest restriction means we both will miss celebrating my parents fiftieth wedding anniversary which they are celebrating out on the farthest tip of Cape Cod, something that pains us greatly.

In my mind I have begun counting the days until Gabriella is born, sometimes even hours, in the hope that facing each moment as it happens might get me there quicker. Minute by minute, hour by hour, I hope that all is well with my wife and child and that these fourteen weeks evaporate the stress and worry that is weighing down on us.

T-14 Weeks and Counting

Anxiety levels are hitting an all time high as a brief consultation with the calender revealed the relative lack of time remaining before Gabriella’s arrival. I’ve stepped up my scurrying, darting about the house to prepare the nursery. Bikes (sadly) have been moved into the attic and I’ve strung cable to prepare for the move of the servers and DSL line into the Library/Dog Room/Arboretum/Office. Next up is painting the room and re-finishing an old dresser. At the very minimum, these mundane tasks have kept my mind just busy enough to give an illusionary sense of calm but beneath thoughts roil.

During those moments late nights when I lie awake staring at the streetlights splashed on the wall or as I wander about the school yards past sunset with the dog my only companion I find bubbles rising to the surface and popping. Memories of past events, decisions made, opportunities missed, friends and lovers forgotten under the detritus of everyday living. With no pattern each one flits past my consciousness sometimes leaving no more than a fading trail but others seemingly scrape by irritating old wounds in their wake. Capturing or swatting them down is a near impossibility as my mind feels disengaged and not under my control.

Sometimes I feel guilt for letting these thoughts wash over me, particularly when I think about old loves, as if the act of letting these memories drift by up against me is a betrayal of my wife. I suppose that I shouldn’t as these are my memories and of people long gone from my reality but it is an odd an uncomfortable feeling. At times the memories are strong enough that my heart skips as I think I can smell their hair, almost feel their fingertips brush against my chin, or hear their faint whispers in my ear. These ghosts are what knot my stomach as I come to dread those moments alone.

Too much time looking over my shoulder as a reaction to not knowing what lies ahead. Maybe the step over the next threshold will make all those yesterdays seem more distant but for now these moments and memories are leaving me even more tense about the arrival of our child.





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