Posts Tagged ‘Reflecting’

Monday Morning Dose of Cute

Monday, April 16th, 2007

After last week I figured I should start my morning off with something sweet.

The Weeks: Fourteen

Here’s Gabi at fourteen weeks enjoying a bath. She is perpetually full of smiles and is really starting to find her voice as she often lets out shrieks and yelps of joy that are beginning to approximate actual laughs. Last week she rolled over for the first time purposefully, moving from her tummy to her back with ease and grace. Everday is a joy to spend time with her.

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After a stressful and mostly sleepless Thursday night and Friday this little girl could barely hold her head up by the time the weekend rolled in. One minute she was sitting happily chatting with the dog and the next out like a light.

Slumped over.

Here’s a close up of her being supported by the toy bar.

Could your position be anymore awkward?

After a little while she changed positions, this time to something even more uncomfortable and she slept like that for another hour.

Eight Weeks of Gabriella

Tuesday, February 27th, 2007

The Weeks: Eight

There was a time when eight weeks were easily counted on two hands and in a glance at a calendar that time would seem no more than a scattering of days on a page. These eight weeks, now, stretch out like a long cat in the sun. My memory is warm and slightly faint, the struggle of the early days blunted and fading, her giggles and smiles blanket them comfortingly.

Watching her awaken to the world is a wondrous experience. Her joy at discovering the smallest of things from the soft touch of a stuffed animal to the piercing shriek of a cry unfolding into a laugh coming up short at her own wide-eyed amazement that the sound slipped out from between her own lips. Legs stretching and pushing as hard as they can to support her weight, you can see her determination and intent to stand as tall as everyone else so that she will not miss a single thing and the frustration that crosses her face when her strength falters and her bottom plunges back down unto the lap of her parents.

My life before Gabriella is quickly receding into the past and I find it increasingly difficult to remember a life without her snuggling deep into my chest or exploring my face with her slender fingers. She is a beautiful person possessed by an uncanny ability to wash away old regrets and bring purpose to my hours.  If this is what eight weeks has brought I can only imagine the gifts to come in time.

Musings on Gabriella

Wednesday, February 14th, 2007

Baby GirlGabriella is amazing. Certainly that is something that every parent states but she has thrown my world into disarray with her coos, giggles, smiles, cries, and snuggles. All the things I once did have been swept aside; I’m taking longer to read a book, letting server projects gather dust, even my walks with Peri are shorter and quicker. Expected yet surprising at the same time.

Gabriella is determined to set her own schedule and now is regularly sleeping seven to eight hours a night. She clearly distinguishes night from day, though she loathes to go to bed, even at six weeks, if there is still socializing to be had so the whole house needs to be quickly approaching slumber before she will sleep. Intensely curious and wakeful is this little girl.

She is possessed of an appetite that we never planned for as she now tosses back some five to six ounces a sitting. Oddly enough, she is not ballooning up like a mini-Michelin man rather she is stretching out as if made of rubber. All the food has emboldened and strengthened her as she is making an incredible effort to push herself up with her legs. Able to stand, with a hand at her back and tummy for balance, for longer and longer stretches of time we chew our lips in worry that she will be careening through the house on two legs before any of us, including her, are really ready.

She is growing up fast, these scant weeks have seen so many changes in her and I feel barely able to keep up with them.  I can only guess at what will come and hope that my memory is not too slippery to hold on to them.

Tired.

Tuesday, January 23rd, 2007

When things fell apart they did not drift down slowly like so many leaves on a warm October breeze. Rather they separated, brittle and fragile, in a quick and frightening manner leaving everything else jumbled and confused; minutes, days, and hours running together like so much spilled ink. The echo of those days only scant weeks ago is just a sort of numbness.

I’ve sat down countless times to try and organize my thoughts, to commit something to written word but, inevitably, I abandon the effort out of frustration or exhaustion. Simply put, Gabriella’s birth was traumatic for Management and for myself. Days without sleep for both of us, her in pain, myself gripped with fear sitting by her bed unable to close my eyes. Labor, itself, lasted nearly a full day and only ended when she was whisked away to the operating table when the baby’s heartbeat became so faint that it would disappear with each contraction.

The days following were worse though as the sleeplessness stretched out further and eating became somewhat of a fond memory. My wife saw her body broken, not just from the trauma of the surgery but the labor itself had brought with it injuries that would need weeks to heal. Pain and sadness filled her eyes up until the day she was released. That morning she radiated happiness, filled with joy at starting our lives. It only lasted a handful of hours until it melted away with the palsy that struck late in the morning washing her sense of smell and taste while clouding her vision. The weeks have seen many visits to different doctors, some that poke, others that prod, and still some that stoke impossibly long chins. Answers might be forthcoming or not. Only they know.

The doctor bills are reaching upwards, listing precariously to the left, while the calculator blinks increasingly harsh numbers. Sleep has finally come, if only in fits, and we remember to eat, if only by gulps and handfuls. We are making our way slowly out of this month with each step carrying us closer to being whole and healthy again. When I am at my lowest, and when I’m not sure that I can keep my eyes focused on a point ahead of me I sink my face into my daughter’s neck to breathe deeply. For her we will move on.

Coming up for air.

Wednesday, January 10th, 2007

There hasn’t been much time in the past couple of weeks for me to write, let alone really think about the birth of our daughter and the subsequent changes to our lives. Hectic, confusing, sometimes traumatic, and mostly filled with beautiful moments would make for a passable summary. The dull cloud of shock is beginning to wear off and the weight of our new life is making itself felt.

I am still thinking about the events leading up to and tumbling after the birth of our daughter. Six days in the hospital is a long time and a week plus days with only fragments of sleep to cover oneself leaves you in a sort of psychotic waking state. There are experiences that still need to be unraveled and examined, others that should be filed away and not looked at for months maybe years, and still some that should be cherished and clung to like a life preserver in tumultuous, midnight darkened seas.

Our daughter is exerting a gravity neither of us has ever experienced, pulling us in closer to her and each other; exposing our fears, weaknesses, strengths, and joys with each revolution of the sun.  We love her, more than anything before and possibly anything after her but for now she has rendered me inarticulate.

All Quiet On The Baby Front?

Saturday, January 6th, 2007

Not really, still coming to terms with fatherhood and adjusting to a radically different sleep schedule. With some minor complications arising from Management’s emergency C-Section I’m holding down the graveyard shift, which with my impending return to work has left me with a sour knot in my stomach.

I have arrived at the conclusion that infants are both the most wonderful thing yet the most terrifying as well. Never before have I been filled with such joy and dread swirling about as I struggle for some shred of self-possession. She is a tiny but powerful bundle of disruption.

Time to grab at some scraps of sleep as they drift by.